help please

sorry for the anonymous I don't want people form other streams harassing me.

Well, for me the difference is that a bi person is attracted to multiple genders or sexes and a pan person just doesn't care about gender. I am certainly panromantic as a person's gender is just unimportant to me because in a relationship I'm looking for someone with a compatible mind. For physical attraction it is much harder to determine. I still consider myself pansexual because I think a body can be physically attractive whatever gender or sex the person inside it might be. But there certainly are some classically male or female attributes that attract me. I don't know if that makes me "less pansexual" or "more bisexual" or if that's just how physical attraction works for people who don't consider romantic attraction and physical attraction to be the same. 🤷

ok thanks

for me physical attraction comes after romantic attraction so I don't really care.

I think that sort of falls under the asexual spectrum. You need some form of connection before you want to physically get closer to someone?

ya I never thought of it that way.

That's nothing unusual. I think there are less people who can disconnect the two. And in my opinion everyone is somewhere on the asexual spectrum... some of us are just at the opposite end. 🤷

ya i used to think of it that way with being bi so it makes sense. thanks for the help.

Any time. Glad I could help. 😉

i can help if u think u might be pan, because I'm pan as well.

ok lets hear it. sorry for being a bit late I had to sleep.

ok. does gender matter to you in the people you are attracted to?

ok thanks.

no problem

no if I like being around someone in certain circumstances then I am attracted to them.

that sounds like pansexual

Idk the difference