It took me a whole lot of life passing me by before I embraced the sadist that I have inside me. It took a very special person to convince me that I wasn't broken, I wasn't sick, I wasn't some sort of deviant, I was exactly who I was supposed to be. It has been so liberating to realize that the 'gift' I can give to her makes her feel alive and is something she has craved from a partner for a long time. When I first started researching BDSM I realized how many misconceptions society, including myself at first, have about the culture and what it truly means to trust someone so completely as to put your physical and mental well-being in their control. I find it so humbling that I found someone like that, to the point where she surrenders to me completely. I find great pride in pushing her limits a little more each time and also only having had her safe word out 1 time, it's not about pushing someone to the point of breaking, but expanding their limits and reaching new places together you thought were not possible. The sub in a good relationship I think does have way more ‘power’ than the Dom, they set the limits and communicate their needs. As a Dom it’s my job to figure out how to get her there and make sure we both experience the pleasure and satisfaction form our time together. And Dom High/Space is a real thing as far as I’m concerned, just like SubSpace, it is different in experience, but there is no feeling I have ever had like being in that moment/space of having complete dominance over another person and realizing they have willingly given it over to you.