same same, a cool guy is always labeled as an asshole by so called "hot" girls=hwores and their accompaniying wimpy hearted men-no matter how physically big and strong they are, they are just whimpy so they need girl power around them; because the cool guy spirited person is his own person and does not let anyone to enter his personal space with ignorant comments, attitudes, and/or frequencies, and he is a LOVER, so he loves himself first and protectes this status. He is a GIVER.