not saying this is "right", i'm saying it's not as if they're consciously or intentionally refusing help. they innocently don't know how to receive it. all they know in life is that people can't be trusted, so they've got to do all the heavy lifting on their own.
It's not like these people aren't aware of how horrible their tendencies are. Yet they keep going, they keep PREMEDITATING, keep planning their attacks. Sorry, it's just not easy to see their side of it.