Then, too, the man of your dreams is not really the man you want or need.
A classmate of mine thought she had it all when she got married. Instead, she ended up in a car wreck and has been paralyzed ever since. Her hubby didn't want anything to do with THAT, divorced her within a year. But the guy in her friendzone heard about if, and, ignoring all advice from family and friends, rushed to her. They've been married over 30 years. Because he loved her.
The man is there, waiting.