Confession Bear

Yep time for a drink my friend :)

Over share time?

Sorry to here that bro. Chin up .:)

my divorce was a little funny. and it was more mutual then the marriage. lol
Whats your story Smerkin?

Atleast you have your health and all is good . ...um ..i joke alot bro but it has its ups and downs. :)

Women are messed up

Almost literally a cheating w**re tho :(
(and I'm not bitter about it all) lol

Considering the original meme this thread is under, I dont think any females are going to show up and want to hang out. So lets run with the unhappy dude theme.
How old are you Apes? How many years of wedded unbliss? And are there any kids in the picture?

45. No kids married 16 years.

I dont know you her or the situation, I'm not a pro, I dont give advice, and I screw up every part of my own life everytime. But I share what I've learned in 41 years.
And 16 years is a long time, 5 times longer then my sham marriage.
But 45 leaves you about another 45 to go, lots of time to TRY to have some happiness. The question to ask yourself is what you really want. If you could stay with her and be happy together? Or are you completely sure your want nothing more to do with the whole thing and would just be happier being done.
If you want to work it out I'm sorry all I can suggest at best is the usual cliche stuff. Treat her like you just started dating, candle light dinners, flowers, romantic getaways, stuff you had fun doing when you had fun together. Sometimes that stuff works.
If your done and know it for sure, get a good lawyer, be out of your way super nice to her the whole time in every way. Divorces always get a little nasty, you will say and do stuff you will regret and hate yourself for.
And if you do start the divorce there is NO going back. And believe or not you will miss her and want her back at least a little, no matter how else you feel about.
But whatever you do dont spend the many more years you still have in life being stuck and miserable.

She is my best friend and I love her. I'll never leave her. She just doesn't enjoy sex the way other women claim to. She is willing to accommodate but I just don't see the point if only one of us is enjoying it.

talk to her she see if anything floats her boat, but some people have no receptors, some just arnt interested. First hand talking here, some chicks enjoy it. Cheater websites could blow your mind. But either get permission or you risk your marriage. (also keep in mind I dont give advice)

If things stay this way I'll be OK with it. I didn't exactly have women lining up for me in my youth so I can go without .

After all that time, she forgot that she had a husband. Sex wasn't the problem. Only reason we stopped was her health conditions. At best. Just cuddle at night.

Three kids. Her daughter I adopted, and then a boy and girl that are ours. All grown, now. With their own kids.

We had a hell of an argument. First time in years I'd raised my voice, especially that loud. She told me to get out and not come back. Left on foot. Went back the next day, got some clothes. She tried to say that she was joking about me never coming back. Right. Told her we needed time apart. Stayed with a friend a couple months, got a place and rebuilt life. Last summer, she decided to file for divorce. Final about 3 weeks ago. Don and daughter are very supportive of me. Other daughter has the ex living with her.

No child support, no alimony (Indiana) and she is living off my daughter's income.

This will be the first time in 38 years I haven't bought her anniversary present (Christmas Eve) Birthday Present )Christmas day) and Christmas present. I've always managed to get her something for each occasion no matter how tight things were. Being a Christmas Baby, she was always getting short changed.

I've grown closer to my kids and my granddaughters. So I got that going for me, which is nice.

For dealing well with a screwed up situation. 38 years is a long time, but if she filed only a few months after "time apart" doesnt really sound like she was joking to me.
Good to hear the kids and grand kids are taking it well, thats usually one of the hardest parts.

I was married for about 3 years (had sex an average of twice a year) been divorced about 2 years. Have 1 kid age 5 and a half (do the math)
At this point me and the ex get along pretty good, and even take the kid on vacations together.

Well, it was almost a year. Never asked me to come back home. But she missed my paycheck. She had go go to work and she wasn't happy.

I'll stop in Christmas Eve and drop off the boys' presents. Haven't talked to her in months, though.