Interesting array of beliefs, I respect you for thinking for yourself.
Part of what was interesting about Trump in the primaries was that he sort of scrambled partisan lines. He supported a lot more spending than other Republicans on things like Social Security and Medicare. He spoke out against the Iraq War -- even if it's dubious whether he actually opposed the war at the time, he certainly did take that stance by 2016, against the standard GOP party line (he was even booed onstage at some of the debates for this). Being a billionaire from NYC, he was perceived as a libertine on sexual issues, someone who wasn't really and truly going to try to ban abortion, and he even explicitly said he "loved the gays," etc. He was of course from outside politics and promised to run the country efficiently, "like a business."
All things that showed promise at the beginning, and I even cheered a bit internally on Election Night 2016 when Trump beat HRC, a swamp creature whom I had no love for, and would have obviously represented nothing more than more of the same.
However, it's since become abundantly clear that Trump is way out of his depth, has no desire to learn on the job, doubled-down on his penchant for racism and narcissism which put me off during his campaign, has allowed himself to be spun every which way by other Republicans and his advisers, shown little to no interest in compromising with Democrats to get things done, and the entire federal government is rudderless as a result.
A lot of Americans seem perfectly fine with that result; as they are self-interested political nihilists who have been taught that the government can only do harm, and whose circle of compassion and concern for others does not radiate beyond their own nuclear family, or at its maximum extent, their own suburban block (good quality public schools and ever-rising property values being paramount concerns).