I agree. The idea that children should never be exposed to any discomfort or disappointment is at the very root of this heap. They should not be disciplined but rather rewarded. For example, I can't tell you how many times I have heard someone say that when their child did something which they should receive consequences, they took them out for ice cream instead. The idea somehow being that the child needs to be "heard" and not feel like they are "bad". I feel that it is possible to discipline a child while also communicating to find out why they did what they did, and to help them understand why there are consequences etc...